“Life doesn’t get better or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient” – Steve Maraboli

What a great quote, right? It’s a short sentence but carries in it so much truth. 

If there’s one thing we know about this life, it’s that it’s unpredictable. If we forgot about this before, the year of 2020 sure reminded us. We face many obstacles and as soon as we solve one problem, another one tends to show up. 

When life gets difficult, we have a choice. We can choose to succumb to the difficulty and hurt ourselves in the process, or we can try to stay grounded, and maybe even grow through the experience, even if it’s tough. One of the ways we do this as human beings is by becoming resilient.

So, what is resilience?

Have you ever met someone who remained so strong in the face of hardship, and wondered how they did it? Resilience is part of the answer.

To be resilient is to develop the ability to stay grounded, and cope effectively with anxiety and difficult emotions that show up when faced with adversity. It means to bounce back every time you fall and maintain a healthy mindset even in the face of adversity.

Resilient people grow through adversity and come back stronger. 

It’s important for us to develop this quality, especially because we know life will be filled with ups and downs. It’s by no means easy, but worth it in the end. The more resilient you are as a person, the better you’ll be at handling whatever life throws at you. 

I’m going to share with you some ways in which you can build your resilience.

Believe in yourself

“Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, pretend that you do and, at some point, you will.” -Venus Williams

I’m sure you’ve heard this many times already and it might sound a little cliche, but it’s golden advice, and I’m going to tell you why. 

Sometimes we’re faced with problems we think are too big or impossible for us to handle. We feel like all the doors are locked and we’re out of options. We search left and right for help, but none is offered.

Believing in ourselves, our strength, and our ability to get through problems can help us overcome them.

Believing in yourself doesn’t mean you’ll have all the answers right now and it doesn’t mean you won’t trip up or fall short. It means that no matter what happens, you’re clinging onto a truth deep within yourself that you’re enough and you have what it takes to get through this; and that’s what helps you rise back up everytime. 

You don’t have to feel ready to overcome what you’re dealing with, you just have to try. The confidence will follow afterwards. For now, keep listening to that voice inside you that reminds you that you have what it takes, and keep believing in yourself. 

Accept what you can control and what you can’t control

One of the difficulties that comes with facing a problem is that often times, we feel as though we’ve lost control. As human beings, it’s in our nature to want to have as much control over our lives as possible, so how you feel is normal and understandable,

It’s hard to live with things happening around you knowing there’s nothing you can do to change them. It takes strength to let go and it might feel like you’re giving up, but you’re not. 

What does wrestling and resisting things we can’t control do to us besides hurt us?

Resilience is looking at the challenge you’re facing head on, being honest about not being able to change or control it, but choosing to control how you’ll deal with it. And this starts with acceptance of the situation, and changing your perspective.

Say you’ve just found out that you’ve been diagnosed with an illness. You can’t control the illness going away right now. What you can control however, is the steps you’ll take towards getting better again. You accept the uncomfortable reality, and then try your best to do what you can with this situation.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you won’t be exhausted at times and want to give up. Again, it takes strength to let go of the illusion of control, but resilience will help you get back up every time you fall, and make you believe in yourself and your strength once again.

Be honest about how you feel

Many of us are taught that when we face hardships in our lives, we need to bear the difficulty with patience and a smile on our faces. In fact, we think this is the definition of resilience. That we have to stay ‘strong’ and that being emotional is weakness.

We’re taught it’s not okay to cry, to be angry, hurt, or express how we feel. 

This isn’t true and only deepens the hurt. 

You don’t have to pretend to be okay if you’re not, and this doesn’t diminish your strength in any way. In fact, it takes courage to be open and expressive about how we feel.

No matter what you’re facing in life, it’s normal as a human being that your body will experience different emotions: anger, anxiety, hurt , sadness and so on. You don’t have to push those emotions aside and try to put on a brave face, allow your body to experience and process these feelings even if it’s uncomfortable right now. 

If you practise self denial and suppress how you really feel, these emotions will only resurface later on in life, even if your problem’s been dealt with. So be honest about how you feel, allow your body to process what it needs to, and get back up when you feel ready to.

Connect with people, especially your loved one

Going through a difficulty can feel very isolating. It seems as though no one fully understands the weight you’re carrying on your shoulders because they haven’t been through the same thing.

In truth though, even if someone hasn’t walked in your shoes directly, it doesn’t mean they don’t understand or can’t support you. Even the people who seem to have perfect lives are battling with issues of their own. We just don’t know. 

That colleague whom everybody loves at work and you think has everything put together in her life could be going through a messy divorce. Your successful friend who seems to overcome every obstacle thrown her way could be battling with an illness. Your neighbour who lives in the best house on the streets could be grieving the loss of someone they love. 

We don’t know the silent struggles people have. And this is why reaching out and sharing your worries is important. It’ll make you feel more understood and less alone. 

Being around loved ones in particular will distract your mind from what you’re struggling with. It’ll put a smile on your face and remind you to laugh. It’ll even serve as a reminder that no matter how difficult things are, you still have people around you that you love and whom you love. Emotional support from loved ones is vital to build resilience. 

Celebrate your small wins

If you know someone who’s going through something challenging, and you seem them try to remain strong and resilient, you’ll encourage them right? You’ll celebrate their strength and remind them how amazing they are. Well, remember to do the same for yourself.

Everyone handles hardships differently. If you’ve been severely depressed for a while and the only thing you achieved was taking a shower, celebrate that. Be proud of yourself for every  step you take towards getting better, no matter how small the step is. 

You can even go a step further and reward your efforts, by treating yourself to a nice meal or doing an activity you enjoy. 

Make time for self care, whether that’s through journaling, exercising, doing breathing work or taking walks in nature. Your attention doesn’t have to be fixated on your problems all the time, take time for living too, and that is part of growing resiliency. 

Final thoughts

Resilience takes a long time to build, in fact, it’s a lifelong process. So don’t worry about falling short and making mistakes because that’s normal. 

Wth time, you’ll notice it’s easier to cope and deal with problems, and you’ll be surprised at yourself with every milestone you reach.

If you’re looking for support on how to practically apply the advice above and deepen your resilience, I’m inviting you to check out my coaching services https://lifecoachingwithnarriman.co.za/where I’ve helped many women like you not only overcome their hardships, but thrive in their lives afterwards.

Heartbreaks are extremely difficult to deal with.

As much as anyone can try to convince you that things are okay and you’ll be fine, the pain you experience in the moment can make you feel like you’ll never heal and feel whole again.

There’s no medicine for heartbreaks. There is no quick and easy way to fix or minimize the hurt.

Putting the pieces of you broken heart together again and reinventing yourself is a process. It’s not something you can heal overnight, but there is a way forward, and that’s the hope you can cling onto for now.

What you  are experiencing right now, athough normal, won’t last forever. You can move onto another chapter of your life and reinvent yourself, if you commit to being your own best friend and helping yourself grow from this.

In this piece, I’ll share a couple of strategies you can use to move on from heartbreak, and experience a new beginning in your life.

Forgive yourself and your ex-partner

 “Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve the peace” – Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Forgiveness isn’t easy, especially when you’ve been wronged and the pain is still fresh, but it’s an important step to take if you want to move on with your life.

Holding grudges is unhealthy for your mental state, gossiping with others about your ex will only make you revisit painful memories, and this will stand in the way between you and your progress.

If you want to free your heart from the pain it’s feeling and your mind from the bad memories, make a conscious decision to forgive your ex-partner. Remember that you’re doing this for you and your well-being, not them.

At the same time, it’s important to practise self-forgiveness too. Every heartbreak is different and can happen for various reasons. Right now, you might be consumed with self-doubt, guilt and remorse. You have to try and let that go or else it’ll be difficult for you to start anew.

What’s happened is in the past and even if you feel the loss of this relationship is a failure on your part, use this as a lesson.

Start taking care of yourself

After a heartbreak, it’s easy to fall into a depressive state that makes you lose control over yourself and your life. This is normal, you’re in pain and you have no idea how to pick up the pieces and move on.

A good way to start is by looking after yourself and you can do this in several ways, here are some ideas:

• Reconnect with some friends and family members you haven’t seen or spoken to in a while.
• Take up a new passion or hobby (baking, art, gardening, DIY, volunteering etc)
• Look after your physical health by getting into a good exercise routine that you enjoy. Also, be mindful about what you eat. Taking care of your body is a great way to feel good about yourself.
• Take up a new practice that could benefit your mental health such as reading books on personal development.
• Create a productive morning routine that’ll help you start your day right and feel good.
• Practise self-love by implenting some of the tips mentioned here into your daily routine.

Be mindful about what you’re looking at on social media

Social media has its benefits, but it can also be an anxiety-inducing environment.

Everyone is always posting pictures of their seemingly perfect lives, and this can really take its toll on your self confidence if you start comparing yourself to them.

If you’re dealing with a heartbreak, the last thing you need to see are cute pictures of couples on your feed. So consider unfollowing some accounts, or take a break from social media completely.

This will free your mind and give you time to focus on yourself instead and on your journey towards reinventing yourself, focusing on you is what you should do.

If you choose to stay on social media, consider following some pages that give tips on managing your mental health and working on your personal development. That way, your feed will be filled with inspiring and helpful posts.

Change something about your life

This change could be anything: getting a new hair colour or cut, changing your wardrobe and buying new clothes you love, even changing your living space by redecorating.

Changing something about yourself or your life is a good way of reinventing yourself. You’re letting go of the old, and replacing it with something fresh and new that makes you happy.

If you’re not sure about what you’d like to do or where to start, I suggest making a vision board. You can do this by sticking a bunch of pictures on a piece of cardboard or canvas that represent what you’d like to achieve in life.

Start with the easier, more achievable things then move on to the daring ones. This will keep your mind off the past. Instead, your intention will be on what you can change in the present to make your goals work out for the future.

Release judgements you have about yourself

After a heartbreak, you might be plagued with self doubt and negative opinions you have about yourself.

You run through old arguments and wonder where you went wrong, and wish you could go back in the past and fix things. It’s okay to apologize and recognize you made some mistakes if that’s how you feel, but remember to put a full stop on that chapter of your life once you’ve left your partner.

There’s no point in judging your past self and what you did then, your only focus should be on what you can become now.

If you left a toxic relationship this is even more importance to practice. Toxic relationships are mentally draining and can take a long time to heal from. If you were abused or used to being spoken to as if you were always at fault, this toxic cycle might still be part of your life now.

You might find yourself repeating some of these toxic patterns like judging yourself and using negative self talk. It’s important to notice when you’re doing this, and put a stop to it straight away.

Put a full stop on that chapter of your life

You might be tempted to see what your ex partner is doing how they’ve moved on by asking their friends or even searching about them on social media. As tempting as this is, it’s not a good idea.

Remember, this will be a set back on your journey towards personal growth. It might even cause feelings of resentment and jealousy to brew, and your heart deserves to be spared of these emotions if you’re trying to reinvent yourself.

As difficult and tempting as it might be to go back, force yourself to only look and move forward. This will make the healing process much easier, especially once you ignore these thoughts and temptations at the beginning.

Final thoughts

 You might be feeling pretty lost and defeated right now, and this is understandable. During dark moments like these, it’s difficult to see past your pain, but there is a way out and things can get better for you.

If you’d like  one-to-one advice and personal guidance on how you can reinvent yourself after a heartbreak, you can check out my coaching services here https://lifecoachingwithnarriman.co.za/love-and-relationships/

You don’t have to be hung up in the past, you deserve to be happy and lead a life you love.

Picture a beautiful, ideal image of what you’d like your life to be like a year from now and where you see yourself. Do you believe you can make it happen? Ofcourse you can! And I can help you on your journey.

Is it safe to send my child back to school?

As lockdown restrictions ease and life slowly gets back to normal, many parents are facing the challenging decision of sending their children back to school.

Right now, you might be torn between wanting to keep your children safe at home with you, but also fearing for their educational future.

While it’s normal and understandable to be fearful, it’s important not to instil any of that anxiety into children. These are trying times for everyone, including children, and it’s important to make them feel confident and comfortable about the decision you make together.

If you’re a parent feeling anxious over this decision, you should know that you’re not alone. Many parents are facing similar worries, and they feel as unsure as you do. 

To ease some of your worries, here are some pieces of advice on how you can parent from a place of love during these trying times:

Identify your worries and concerns

It’s important for you to know exactly what it is that is making you anxious and fearful. While you might think you have all the answers in your mind, diving deeper could help you create a plan on how you can deal with your concerns one by one. 

This will vary from parent to parent, and on your children too. Parents with special needs children, for example, will have a different set of worries than others. It’s important to be clear on your unique concerns.

I suggest writing your anxious thoughts down on paper and discussing them with your partner and friends. This will ease your anxiety and could offer you some clarity on what you can do, based on suggestions your loved ones will give. 

For example, if you’re worried your child won’t wash their hands in school as advised by doctors, instead of panicking (understandably) over the thought, you can talk to your kids and remind them every day why it’s important to wash their hands in school. 

You can lead by example by washing your hands a few times a day in front of them too,  and create a routine they can implement in school. If it helps, you could ask the teachers to remind them too.

It’s a good idea to discuss your worries with your children, so they understand your concerns. This will encourage them to obey the rules and regulations, as they’ll see where you’re coming from. 

When you speak to your kids, remember to take a gentle approach, the aim is to make them understand how you feel, not to overwhelm them with fear. 

Allow your children’s thoughts to influence your decision

It’s important to talk to your children about sending them back to school. Ask them how they feel about the idea, and if they think it’s the right decision for them. 

Children are intuitive and while you’re the parent and might know better, it’s important to listen to their thoughts on this too. 

If you’ve decided to send your children back to school, discuss their worries and concerns. Remind them what to expect from the changes that will happen. Reassure them that things will be okay and that they’ll be safe, as long as they listen to the rules. 

If you’re choosing to homeschool your children, again, it’s important to discuss this with them. Ask them how they feel about your decision.

 Have you noticed that they’ve benefited from being educated at home? 

Or is school a better environment for them?

Do they like the idea of home education?

Every child is unique and since you know your children best, weigh the pros and cons of home education and school, then decide what is better based on your child for now.

Remember that you’re not alone, and you can speak to other parents about this decision too. If you’re sending your children to school, you can speak to their teachers to get more advice and reassurance. 

Be aware of COVID-19 updates

This isn’t to overwhelm you, but for you to be aware of the changes and updates. 

Doctors and scientists are studying this virus and don’t have all the answers because it’s new. At the beginning of the pandemic, for example, we were told not to wear masks. Now we know it’s important to wear them and  our children should wear them in schools. 

They’re informing us about what they learn, so it’s important to be up to date with their advice and the regulations.

Knowing this information helps to protect ourselves and our children more. 

Don’t overwhelm yourself by looking at scary statistics on social media and the news, but make sure you’re more or less aware of what’s happening and what you need to know now, so you can teach and inform your children too.

Be confident about the decision you make, don’t be hard on yourself

Whichever choice you make (sending your children back to school or keeping them at home) remember that your decision is coming from a place of love and care, so don’t be hard on yourself.

If you’re sending your children back to school, it’s because you think this is what’s best for them. They will be with their friends, their teachers, and you won’t have to worry so much about their education.

If you’re choosing to homeschool your kids, it’s because you want to keep them safe, they might seem happier at home, you’ve listened to what they want, and they’re not being academically affected. 

Some people might be quick to judge, but you’re trying your best with what you have. These are unprecedented times, and you’re learning as you go just like everybody else. So have confidence about the decision you make, as long as both you and your children are okay with it, that is what matters.

Final thoughts

Like many parents, you might be feeling alone and misunderstood in your worries and concerns. Having someone by your side to help you manage your anxieties during these trying times could be what you need. 

If you’re looking for some personal guidance on how you can manage your worries and navigate your life during these trying times, you can check out my coaching services https://lifecoachingwithnarriman.co.za/single-parenting/

Our lives are taking a new direction, and we’re not sure what will happen in the future. It’s normal to feel anxious, and it’s okay to get help. 

Being productive isn’t always easy. Being productive during changing times is particularly challenging. When something happens in life that is unexpected, like this pandemic we’re facing, it’s easy to lose the motivation and will power to have productive days. 

Since our normal routines and schedules are disturbed, it’s hard to restructure our lives in a way that makes us feel content and fulfilled. 

Right now, you might have just about enough motivation to get you out of bed. But inside, you feel a little guilty and would secretly like to be productive again, right?

With a bit of proactivity, that’s possible. In this article, I’ll share with you six ways in which you can stay productive, even while your life is facing changes. 

Plan your days ahead of time. 

Planning your day is a good place to start if you want to boost your productivity. You can plan the night before or every morning after you wake up.  This will give you clarity as to what you need to do that day, and at what time. 

Waking up in the morning without a clear plan encourages unproductivity, since you don’t know what to do or what to start off with, in the end you don’t achieve much.

 You can have a mental plan in mind as to how you’ll structure your day to be productive, but I also recommend writing it down. Statistics show  that you’re more likely to achieve your goals if you write them.

Make it a habit to jot down a to-do list on a piece of paper. Or if you prefer, you can download a planner app. 

Prioritize what’s important first

After you’ve planned your day, prioritise what’s important to do first. 

For example, if you’d like to read today but you have a few emails you need to respond to, complete that task before you do anything else. 

As annoying as it is, nothing beats the feeling of relief you get after doing the important things.

It’s also a good idea to break down big tasks into smaller, more manageable ones. Say you have your house to clean. The thought of having to tidy each room is overwhelming, right? So start with the most important room first, and clean the rest of them gradually or even the following days. You’ll notice these hacks are simple, but will do wonders for your productivity. 

Look after your physical and mental health

When our lives take an unexpected turn, one of the first things we neglect is our physical and mental health. To start being productive again, create a routine in place that includes looking after yourself. 

For your mental health, this can be things like journaling in the mornings, practising breathing exercises, meditating or consuming useful information, like reading books on personal development. 

For your physical health, that can be exercising a few times a week, being conscious of what you eat or going out for walks. 

You don’t have to do all these things daily as that can leave you feeling overwhelmed. Just make sure to jot something down that you’ll do to benefit your physical and mental health when you plan your days, so you can stay mindful about your mind and body.

Take time off technology

Technology takes up time in our lives. Whether it’s scrolling through social media on our phones or watching videos on our laptops, it’s always there to distract us. Taking time off technology is what you need to be more productive. Everyday, turn off your phone and laptop for an hour or more. 

You can use that free time to explore a new hobby, complete a task you’ve wanted to, or do something to benefit your physical and mental health. 

Fix your sleeping schedule – wake up and sleep earlier

When our lives are unstable, our sleep schedule can get affected. Since the covid-19 pandemic, many people have been sleeping and waking up late, or just sleeping at random times during the day. 

This isn’t something we consider as much as we should, but sleeping really helps to stay productive. It’s  important for your overall health, and if you wake up early after a long night’s sleep, you’ll see that you feel refreshed which will motivate you to have a productive day.

Think about your sleeping pattern right now, is it helping you be productive or not? If your answer is no, that’s the first thing you should work on to restructure your days properly. 

Final thoughts: Embrace the changes happening

Life changes all the time. That’s an uncomfortable reality for many of us, but a reality nonetheless. Embracing change is an important part of being productive as it helps you create a mindset shift. 

Instead of thinking about the past and trying to figure out how you can change your present to be like before, you can be proactive and adjust your routine to the way things are now. 

You can do this by looking at the things you do have control over, and focusing on that. 

For example, you might have been used to going to the gym but because these public places are closed due to the pandemic, you can’t go for now. Instead of choosing to stop exercising, be proactive and create your own workout routine at home. 

When you do this, not only do you feel proud of yourself and satisfied, you also learn to take control over a situation and remain productive even while your life is changing. 

For more advice and personal guidance on maintaining productive days, be sure to check out my coaching services https://lifecoachingwithnarriman.co.za/

What does self-love have to do with a romantic love relationship, you ask? Surely when we find our significant other, the “I” becomes “we”?

Many women make this mistake, thinking that we are being loving partners by giving up parts of ourselves and merging with our partners in all areas of our lives when we find “The One”!

Because of outdated beliefs we have about love, we abandon who we are at the first sign of a love interest. We make many sacrifices in order to establish and maintain a romantic relationship.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting you need to become selfish. Self-love isn’t selfish and every relationship needs care and nurturing. But a healthy balance is important.

So why is building self-love crucial in a romantic relationship?

You shouldn’t be depending on anyone to make you feel whole or complete. Yes, not even on your significant other!

When we don’t know our own self-worth and value, what we end up doing is seeking the validation of our partner constantly and we make it our life’s purpose to keep him happy.

If this is a pattern you recognize in your relationship, you may not think it’s a big deal. “He’s my partner, my job is to make him happy, right?”. Actually, not quite. Your happiness is your responsibility and his happiness is his responsibility.

Failing to practise self-love can turn a potential healthy relationship into a toxic one.

So what can you do to stay grounded in self-love, while still maintaining a connection with your partner?

Make the primary relationship the one you have with YOU!

“The better you know yourself, the better your relationship with the rest of the world.” -Toni Collette

This may sound odd, but it’s beautiful in practice. Having a relationship with yourself is the first ingredient to self-love. And believe it or not, it’s a game changer.

Having a relationship with yourself means getting to know who you are. Learning about your strengths and weaknesses. Figuring out what makes you happy and what doesn’t.

When you know these things, it makes it easier for you to set boundaries in your relationship and to communicate your needs effectively.

Self-love also means looking after yourself by practising self-care. Keep doing the work on yourself even when you have found romantic love. Here are a few things to do, if you aren’t already doing it:

• Nurture your mind by reading beneficial books.
• Keep a journal
• Exercise regularly and eat a healthy balanced diet
• Meditate
• Do some daily affirmations

Having a relationship with yourself means minding your self-talk. What kind of language do you use towards yourself? Are you kind or mean? Supportive or discouraging? Harsh or gentle?

Would you talk to someone you love, the way you talk to yourself?

Think about how you treat the people you love. Now start to treat yourself the same way.

Be interdependent

Independence is important in every relationship. There must also be a healthy dose of dependency. But to have a truly healthy balanced relationship is when you can live interdependently with each other.

Interdependence involves a balance of self and others within the relationship, recognizing that both partners are working to be present and meet each other’s physical and emotional needs in appropriate and meaningful ways.

When our needs are not met we become resentful of the other party. In this space we can start displaying unhealthy relationship traits which may ultimately lead to the breakdown of a relationship.

Being interdependent means having goals for yourself and your life that aren’t tied with your partner’s. When you’re in a relationship, it’s common to make plans together. There’s nothing wrong with that, but make sure that you have some personal objectives too.

Make sure that you maintain friendships and connections with family and friends who you value. We easily slip into a habit of putting off old friends and family and prioritising our significant other above all other relationships.

Whilst our partners are hugely important in our lives, there are many other relationships that are as important which we must not neglect.

Understand the purpose of your relationship 

One of the most important ways of staying grounded in self, while maintaining a relationship, is understanding what the purpose of the relationship is.

We have many misconceptions about relationships. Societal conditioning influences how we view our roles in making the relationship work. Unlearning some of these beliefs will help you understand the purpose of your relationship.

A relationship is a partnership. It isn’t one person saving the other or vice-versa. It isn’t two broken people coming together to fix each other.

It’s two people supporting and empowering each other lovingly. Understand that you are your own person, the same way your partner is his own person.

This is how you stay grounded in self-love. You avoid becoming codependent by understanding your role and responsibilities in your relationship.

Know your worth and value

Building self-esteem and self-confidence is a key part of increasing self-love. To love yourself means to know your worth and value.

This is important because when you know what you’re worth, you won’t accept anything less than what you deserve.

This helps you set clear boundaries in your relationship.

Here are a few ways to start nurturing your sense of self daily:

• Affirm you worth and value daily with positive affirmations.
• Accept compliments gracefully. When someone pays you a compliment don’t try to play it down but rather accept it in a graceful manner. Especially if it’s coming from your significant other.
• Abandon the limiting beliefs you have about yourself. Particularly those beliefs you’ve adopted because of what people say about you.
• Surround yourself with good company. When you’re with your friends, do you feel good about yourself? If the answer is no, this company isn’t right for you.
• Silence the negative voice in your mind that convinces you that you aren’t enough. And start seeing yourself the way good people in your life see you.

Final thoughts

Remember, increasing self-love isn’t selfish. It’s the one ingredient you need to improve your relationship with yourself, which in turn will help you build a stronger connection with your partner.

If you’re looking for more in-depth advice and one on one coaching on how you can build self-love and create healthier ways of relating, check out the services I offer here https://lifecoachingwithnarriman.co.za/love-and-relationships/

A healthy, beautiful and loving relationship is golden. It is within your power to create and maintain one. As it is with everything else, it starts with you and it calls on you to get grounded in self-love while opening your heart to give and receive love from others.